WaPo reported that Racicot texted Platner that she needed a glute massage to which he understood as an invitation and replied that he would come over. She later changed her mind and told him not to come over. Politico never included this detail in their article and since they were the first to break the story, most people were not aware of this detail.
I recall hearing of a metaphor under the name “Tea Consent”. The idea is that consent for sex is much like asking for a cup of tea. Even if I ask you, repeatedly, for that cup of tea: You can not force me to drink it.
Now you might get annoyed if someone repeatedly asks for tea and then declines it when it’s ready. That’s an acceptable feeling, and you may very well choose not to continue obliging that person as a companion, or at least not as one who you make tea. However, if you choose to get the tea ready, and that person again changes their mind, you still can’t force them to drink it.
Yes and that’s what I meant in my summary. It is a rape. No doubt about it.