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  • toynbee@piefed.socialtomemes@lemmy.worldOK
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    9 days ago

    I’ve recently been reconnecting with my nephew, who is my son. I didn’t have sex with my sister; my first ever girlfriend tricked me into getting her pregnant and my sister, herself sort of an adoptee, was looking to adopt at the time. I enjoy being able to describe him as “my nephew, the one who is my son” because likely there aren’t a lot of people who can accurately say that and, well, it gets a reaction from anyone paying attention.

    Sorry, got off track, though it was relevant to the narrative. My sister, his mom, works in the field of psychology and has informed him that he is likely autistic. Though not by her, I’ve been told the same thing many times by many different people. Last weekend, he and I spent an hour or two playing a game and voice chatting. We both mentioned several things that others have identified as odd behavior that we think is just optimized thinking.

    One of my very early Lemmy posts (under a different account) was about how following patterns is a way to make sure you do things right. During the aforementioned gaming session he said “I can’t function without my patterns.”

    I’m genuinely not sure I’m autistic, but everyone around me seems to be convinced I am and I guess I see why.







  • Long before I was born, before my mom met my dad, when my mom was in college, she dropped out and fled the US. She ended up in Europe and met a man named Colin, whom she then married and with whom she got pregnant, then moved to Greece.

    While in Greece and pregnant, she did not have access to indoor plumbing. Instead, she used an outhouse. According to her, she once got up in the middle of the night to make use of the facilities, started to head outside without a light, then thought better of it and grabbed a light. When she did, she was glad she did so, because there was apparently a large, terrifying scorpion on the doorknob she would have used to exit the residence.

    She did not disclose to me how she handled the situation.


  • toynbee@piefed.socialtomemes@lemmy.worldThems the rules
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    10 days ago

    A game I played a lot with my dad was Pool. He had a full sized slate Pool table that he bought (along with a lawnmower) from a friend who was dying and he put it (the Pool table, not the mower) in a semi dedicated room in his basement. Every family member other than my mom (who was blind in one eye and thus lacked depth perception) loved engaging in the game.

    There are a lot of things at which I lack talent, but Pool is not one of them; I’m better than average at it. My dad was better than I but, a few times, I won against him one-on-one. At least one of those times I accused him of letting me win. He said, and with the benefit of hindsight I believe, that he never “lets” anyone win.

    He probably didn’t try his hardest, but that’s a fairly fine distinction.