Nuance like acknowledging that while two things can be bad, one of them can still be worse than the other?

Not to presume, but you seem capable of self reflection and understanding how others may perceive your interactions. Neurodivergent or not, at that point, it’s a choice to interact with others in a manner that leaves all parties more displeased than when they started.

Is that a genuine question that you want to know the answer for, or is it a setup for calling the person you replied to a hypocrit when they say “yes”?