That’s not being neurotypical. That’s just having poor communication skills.

I won’t even bother replying to him, that’s what I’d have said, thank you.

Based on the actual women in my life, “blame partner for own communication failures” is the divergence rather than the norm.

YMMV. In mine it’s about a 50/50 split, probably edging on the “blame others” side. I do also know guys that expect you to read their minds too though, mostly middle managers, and plenty men and women who can’t take responsibility for any of their faults/actions (which is in essence the same issue, just broadened), it’s not really a gendered issue, it seems like there’s a general accountability problem these days.