• radamant@lemmy.world
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    17 hours ago

    Children don’t really want to live with their parents. I live in Thailand, many people here are poor and live with their families for a much longer time. Well, that leads to things that if you’re dating a girl, she’ll try to move in with you in like 1 month of dating to escape her family (I personally wouldn’t move in with someone until like a year at least). In these families, the kids are used as “retirement” and have to send money to their parents every month (I know a few girls that make like 15000 baht a month and give 50% of that to their parents that do nothing). The “more communal” living they have in non-wesern countries doesn’t come from a good quality of life. I’d say the fact that in the west children move out quickly is a sign of a much much better quality of life in the country on average.

    • brucethemoose@lemmy.world
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      17 hours ago

      That’s fair, but does it have to be like that? Kids paying parents, for example, seems more like a choice than a necessity of living together.


      I’ve just seen a lot of misery from the separation, even in the west. Elderly folks in miserable, expensive retirement homes, or new parents that just can’t get by with the amount of labor between them while their folks are lonely just across town. Dysfunctional households that would’ve never deteriorated with another set of eyes there.

      …Maybe family compounds are too far. But I think families have moved to the other extreme of “uncommunality,” at least in some subcultures here, where we get a little too distant from other family.

      • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
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        11 hours ago

        It’s ok to visit and hang out, but trust me.

        Being bundled together with people, with no personal space is miserable.

        Especially with people who would be tempted to make choices for you.