• Impleader@lemmy.world
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    My favorite subreddits are the ones like “boy dinner diaries,” where people are invited to pour their hearts out to strangers online, admit to some mistakes or failures, talk about what’s bothering them, big or small… and then get absolutely raked over the coals by thousands of repetitive comments if they commit even the slightest infraction. God help you if you admit to something like infidelity.

    I get that this stuff is triggering for people, but I just don’t see the point in sharing it if the community won’t give you the benefit of the doubt or is just going to use you as a prop for their own white knighting.

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      24 hours ago

      BoyDinnerDiaries, GirlDinnerDiaries (GDD) and the GDD circle jerk subs are definitetly my guilty pleasure. I’m not sure why Reddit suddenly started pushing them so hard on everyone, it has to have been a consious decision for them.

      It’s always entertaining in GDD when the men hate train is in full choo-choo, only for OP to say that their partner is actually a woman.

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        20 hours ago

        My tinfoil hat theory is that Reddit is pushing them to steer trending discussions away from class issues and toward some other kind of manufactured conflict, namely, men vs. women. A lot of the comments on those subs seem a little too contemptuous and rage-baity to not be bots fanning the flames. I think Reddit is still trying to shake its old image as a “counterculture” space and become more of a generic engagement-slop site to be even more ad-friendly. It’s also very convenient that Reddit allows profile history hiding now…

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          It’s sad that your “tinfoil hat theory” is… probably not wrong. This is pretty aligned with what these social media giants have been getting caught doing for ages now.

          It might not even be “muah hah hah” (although it probably is). It could just be that those things are engagement bait that the spreadsheet/algorithm likes so it keeps pushing it harder.

          We definitely need to side-eye all these manufactured conflicts as you say. It’s really irritating how, once the upper classes start feeling the pressure, suddenly everybody is dividing themselves into hair-color tribes, generations, gender factions, tax brackets, whatever.

          The bait keeps the heat off where the heat is needed most! The ones doing this to us!