I turn my profile visible for about 24 hours. As a late 30’s woman, that gets me about 300 likes in a medium sized European city. (I pay for it, it’s impossible to use otherwise.)

I then go into my list of likes and use filters to start left swiping based on hard cutoff criteria (wants kids, Christian, etc). That drops it down to ~100 people. I use an app that has good filters.

I then go through reading profiles and looking at who is attractive for me (pictures and bio). That leaves about 25 people. I then match with all of them at once. Usually leads to 5 or so good conversations, and a few dates. Give it a shot, repeat if necessary.

If I leave mt profile visible for more than a few days I have thousands of likes. I match with most people I see swiping. It’s just not a feasible way to do it. And I’m not even attractive.

It’s just a flood and it’s nearly impossible to manage. It’s such a broken, asymmetrical system. I hate it so much.